Anxiety is a common issue that impacts millions of people globally. To help someone who is dealing with anxiety, it’s essential to identify both the mental and physical symptoms. Discuss the subject with care, compassion, and without judgment. A supportive listener and being present can change lives for the better. Today, let’s chat about some ways you can support a loved one manage their anxiety.
Anxiety Symptoms
Over 40 million adults in the U.S. have an anxiety disorder. There are a variety of anxiety disorders, and each have their own unique symptoms. Most people experience excessive fear or worry in situations that are not threatening.
Other symptoms may include:
Emotional symptoms:
- Feelings of apprehension or dread
- Feeling tense or jumpy
- Restlessness or irritability
- Anticipating the worst and being watchful for signs of danger
Physical symptoms:
- Pounding or racing heart and shortness of breath
- Sweating, tremors and twitches
- Headaches, fatigue and insomnia
- Upset stomach, frequent urination or diarrhea
Tips to Help
Listen without judgment
When someone is already anxious and fears judgement, it’s important to ensure they feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and emotions. Create a safe space for the person to express their feelings without offering immediate solutions or dismissing their experience.
Using phrases like, “just relax,” or “it’s not a big deal,” can feel dismissive. Instead, acknowledge the difficulty of what they’re going through with statements like, “I can see this is really hard for you.”
Simply listening can make them feel heard and validated. In many cases, they aren’t looking for advice. Rather, they are seeking a listening ear or shoulder to lean on.
Acknowledge their feelings
Anxiety often doesn’t make sense to those who haven’t experienced it firsthand. So, while their fears may seem irrational to you, it’s vital to recognize that their anxiety is real. Phrases like, “I can see you’re really struggling right now,” can offer comfort and the freedom to be open about their feelings.
Be patient
It is important not to rush someone experiencing anxiety. The more pressure they feel to “get better” the less likely they are to seek help. Rather, they might mask or hide their true struggles to appease others. Anxiety often takes time to calm, so don’t pressure the person to “snap out of it.” Be patient with their pace and needs.
Respect their boundaries
Every person is unique, and their experience with anxiety will be different from someone else. Some people with anxiety may need space or may not want to talk about their feelings at certain times. Respect their limits while assuring them you’re available when they need you.
Offer practical help
Consider some of the ways you can help relieve some of the stress and anxiety from your loved one. Sometimes anxiety is linked to feeling overwhelmed by tasks. You can offer to help with specific tasks, like making a phone call or planning a small activity, if they’re open to it. While these might not seem like significant things to you, they can be monstrous for someone dealing with anxiety.
If anxiety is affecting their daily life, gently encourage them to seek professional support. Offer to help them research therapists or accompany them to appointments if that feels supportive.
It’s important to remember that anxiety is a complex emotional experience, and while it may feel overwhelming, having someone by your side can make all the difference. Your supportive words, gentle actions, and willingness to just be there can provide a safe space for those struggling.
It’s not about having all the answers or solving their problems; it’s about showing up consistently and reminding them they’re not alone.
